Throughout their marriage, my mother was beaten by her first husband (my first stepfather). She would leave him, and return to him, many times. He never stopped beating her...
She married her second husband...my second stepfather. During the marriage, there was a time we were in the kitchen...and they were having an argument. She struck him. I stepped between them, and would not allow her to hit him anymore.
I had a relationship with a woman who had been abused. I don't know all of the details of her past, but know some men had beaten her.
A few months into our relationship, I wouldn't do what she wanted me to...and she shoved me. There had been other warning signs for me in our interactions (which she was demanding)...and I refused to tolerate this one.
I am wondering if, based on what they have been through...is in some way...having been physically abused (by other men)...and because I, and my second stepfather, didn't do so to them...that maybe something deep inside of them felt that, when they were frustrated and/or angry...one of the ways for them to show it was to physically.
Monday, December 11, 2017
Sunday, November 13, 2016
Last voice message from Ma
It's been rare that I owned a telephone. Before answering machines were inexpensive, I had a landline...but after answering machines were VERY affordable, I would screen all calls. With an answering machine, I never felt the need for a wireless phone...until wireless phones, with free voicemail service, cost the same as landlines.
(Enough of some of our conversations, for me, had been..."unpleasant"...so) I always told Ma she could call my Google Voice number at any time, leave as long of a message as she liked, and I can listen to them when I had access to the internet. This is the last one she left.
Friday, June 10, 2016
framed, convicted...freed...and disrespected (by a prosecutor)
Davontae Sanford walked out of prison this week, but his freedom is not enough to right the wrong done to him by the justice system in Wayne County...
Sanford was 14 when he was coerced into confessing to killing four people in a drug house execution. Despite wild discrepancies in his confession and the fact that another man admitted to the killings, Sanford was stubbornly kept in prison by a Wayne County Prosecutor’s Office that was unwilling to admit it made a mistake.
...the Michigan State Police investigated the case and determined he could not have committed the crime for which he was convicted that he was released.
That report has not been made public. It should be.
The state police reportedly recommends perjury charges be brought against former Detroit Deputy Police Chief James Tolbert for lying about Sanford’s confession. Prosecutor Kym Worthy seized on that allegation in a statement this week in an attempt to shift blame for the wrongful conviction onto the police.
But her office has much to answer for as well, including ignoring the repeated attempts by convicted hit man Vincent Smothers to take responsibility for the murders, and not recognizing the flimsiness of the evidence against Sanford.
The state police report would be useful in determining what went wrong in Worthy’s office, and how to prevent it from happening again, and Worthy should not be allowed to keep it secret.
Further, Worthy should ask for an independent examination of her operation, perhaps by Attorney General Bill Schuette, to determine whether what happened to Sanford is an isolated incident or part of a pattern of placing expediency ahead of justice. There may be others like Sanford serving time for crimes they didn’t commit because of sloppy practices.
As for Sanford, his life has been ruined by an indifferent and inept system...
...he has not had adequate opportunities to get an education and obtain the skills he will need to live on the outside...
He will not be compensated for his wrongful imprisonment...
http://www.detroitnews.com/story/opinion/editorials/2016/06/09/devontae-sanford-compensation/85680514/
James Tolbert was the former deputy Detroit Police Chief when Devontae Sanford was arrested, charged, and later convicted of killing four people inside a Detroit drug den.
A key piece of evidence was a drawing allegedly done by Sanford that detailed the crime scene...Wayne County Prosecutor Tolbert perjured himself.
Tolbert testified in 2010 that Sanford had created the drawing of the crime scene on a blank piece of paper. Another officer, Sgt. Michael Sanford, testified Sanford created the picture as well.
http://www.fox2detroit.com/news/local-news/156467355-story
"He was convicted by his own words in a guilty plea,” Worthy said. "This wasn't a young man who made a decision to plead guilty in a vacuum.”
http://www.clickondetroit.com/news/wayne-county-prosecutor-to-publicly-address-davontae-sanfords-release
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